Monday, October 6, 2008

Dad & Barb's Anniversary

Today is my Dad & Barbara's Wedding Anniversary.
As I looked for info to put in this blog I realized that I have some deep issues with my dad remarrying after my mom passed away. I could not find a wedding invitation (I know they had one) I could not find a wedding picture (I have seen some) I wasn't even sure what year they were married ( I found it was 2000) I know they were sealed in the Mesa, Arizona temple ( I was there)...but I really do not know much more than that about Barbara. I know she was married before and has two sons (I met at the wedding) I don't know her maiden name. I know when her B-day is but not what year she was born, or where though I believe it was in Canada.

But...with all that...
My dad is not alone, for him that was very important.
And so I guess it should be important to me...Right?

9 comments:

Bren's Life said...

I have always told my mom if something was to happen to her & my dad remarried I would NOT be a happy girl... She says the true sign that someone was able to truly Love was if they can move on & still find happiness & love after their spouse has died.

Jan said...

I don't think I will ever have that opportunity to understand fully of what you went through over this. But, it is true that even the General Authorities are told to marry quickly. It is not good for a man to be alone. Whatever that means.

I hope that you are getting more settled in your mind. But it is a nice gesture to say Happy Anniversary today. :)

Brittany said...

I vaguely remember this happening. Is it your dad or your grandpa whose scripture had the hand print permanently in the leather? Also, I worry a lot about how I would feel if my mom were to remarry if my dad passes, I don't think I would be ok with it for a while. President Hinckley said something to the effect of if you need a spouse to help you further the work then remarry.

Jenn said...

I love Bren's thoughts.

I think it's hard for any child to see. But she's right. He's willing and able to love.

GARAGE SALE GAL said...

Hi Janiece,
My Mom has been alone for 11 years since Dad died and she is very lonely:( It would be good for her to have someone in her life. I hope I would really be okay with it. I just see how sad, lonely and depressed she is.
Thanks for visting.
Deb :)

Lene said...

I think part of the problem with Barb is that she doesn't want us to be close to her. She prefers to be an outsider. Which is fine with me. Thank you very much.

I am glad that Dad isn't alone, but I wish he was married to someone that was there for him and truly loved him for him.

Sayda said...

My mom passed away 10 months before their wedding. My dad remarried 1 year later. It was hard on my siblings and I. They got divorced 1 year later. He said there was no one could compare to my mother. I still see how lonely he is and it makes me sad. Sometimes I wish he had a companion. (Mainly for companionship)
Sayda

Janiece said...

thanks everyone for your thoughts

Karlenn said...

Yeah, men cannot handle being alone. I have seen many men marry within a year of their wives' passing. They just...can't take care of themselves, or something. I would have had a hard time, too. I'm so sorry. :(